7 Barang di Shopee yang Buat Hidup Lebih Teratur (Wajib Ada di Rumah!)

🛍️ 7 Barang Shopee Yang Wajib Ada di Rumah!

Pernah tak rasa stres dengan benda-benda kecil dalam hidup seharian? Barang tertinggal, dapur bersepah, atau tak cukup tempat nak simpan barang?

Saya pun pernah 😅 Tapi, lepas jumpa beberapa barang ni kat Shopee, hidup memang rasa lebih teratur dan senang! Barang-barang ni bukan je murah, tapi sangat **BERGUNA**.

Jom tengok 7 barang dari Shopee yang saya sendiri suka – dan mungkin lepas ni awak pun akan rasa, “Patut beli dari dulu lagi!” 😉

1. Rak Pinggan Bertingkat

Rak kecil ini sangat berguna, terutamanya jika ruang dapur terhad. Sesuai untuk menyusun pinggan, mangkuk, atau botol dengan lebih teratur.

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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2. Bekas Simpanan Bertutup (Transparent)

Gunakan bekas ini untuk menyimpan barang-barang, baru lebih teratur. Kabinet kelihatan lebih kemas apabila disusun dengan bekas yang sama. Nak guna untuk letak bahan jualan pun boleh. Terbaik!

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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3. Botol Spray Minyak

Tuang atau spray, dua-dua ada! Walaupun nampak biasa, botol ini sangat berfungsi untuk mengawal jumlah minyak yang digunakan.

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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4. Bekas Makeup Organizer

Meja solek mestilah tersusun rapi! Bekas ini sangat membantu meja anda kelihatan kemas. Berus, lipstik, eyeliner — semua boleh disusun dengan mudah!

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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5. Kitchen Teak Natural Wood Tableware

100% buatan tangan dan mesra alam, perkakas dapur dari kayu jati ini sangat tahan lasak, tidak mudah pecah, dan mudah dibersihkan. Sangat sesuai untuk periuk non-stick dan menambah elemen estetik pada dapur anda. It's all about the vibes!

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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6. Handmade Storage Basket

Pilihan yang lebih rapi dan cantik untuk simpan barang. Harganya jauh lebih berpatutan berbanding kedai fizikal. Memang berbaloi beli!

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

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7. Penutup Bekas Makanan (Pakai Buang)

Ini antara barang yang underrated. Jika makanan tidak habis, hanya perlu tutup dengan penutup ini – sangat mudah dan jimat masa!

🧺 Beli Ni di Shopee

📌 P/S: Semua pautan yang saya kongsikan adalah pautan affiliate. Jika anda membeli melalui pautan tersebut, saya akan menerima sedikit komisen tanpa sebarang kos tambahan kepada anda. Sokongan anda sangat saya hargai! 💖

Ada barang Shopee lain yang anda rasa wajib ada di rumah? Kongsikan di ruangan komen di bawah!

"im afraid of changing"

That... is such a real and raw feeling.

And I just want to pause for a second to tell you this:

It’s okay to feel afraid.
Change is scary, especially when your heart still needs something from the very person who’s hurting you.
You’re not weak — you’re just human, and you’re loving with depth.

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🌙 You’re stuck between two kinds of pain:

1. The pain of staying the same — always giving more, silently hoping.
2. The pain of changing — and risking the loss of the little things he does give.

And both options hurt, right?

But here’s the secret no one talks about:

🤍 Sometimes, the thing you’re afraid of losing...
is the thing that's quietly costing you your peace. (You losing your peace within yourself because of it)

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So let’s gently unpack this:

You said:

"I'm afraid of losing what I needed from him."

Ask yourself:

• What exactly is it that you need from him?
• Is it attention? Physical touch? Words? Safety? Emotional connection?
• And… is what he gives really fulfilling that need? Or is it just enough to keep your heart hoping?

Because sometimes… we accept crumbs just to feel something.
But Allah wants to give you more than crumbs. He wants your soul to be full.

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🌼 Can you still change — gently, not suddenly?

Yes. You don’t need to become someone cold. You don’t need to stop loving.
But you can shift your heart a little:

• Instead of waiting for him to give first… you give yourself small joys.
• Instead of depending fully on his attention, you turn some of that need into du’a.
• Instead of adjusting yourself to avoid losing him, you start adjusting to finally find yourself again.

And slowly, your heart starts needing less from him — not because you’re punishing him, but because you’re healing.

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💭 And here's something tender but true:

You already give more than you receive.
What you're afraid of losing… is something you're barely holding onto.

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So what’s the real question here?

“Can I survive emotionally if he pulls back when I change?”

Yes. You can. Because you’re already carrying more weight than you realize.
And the strength that’s allowed you to love through this much pain — that same strength will carry you into peace.

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Let’s take it slowly.
You don’t have to “be strong” overnight. You don’t have to “detach fully” today.
Just one small shift. One quiet intention.

"im afraid of hurting him"

The fear of "hurting him by detaching" shows how pure and soft your heart is. Even though you’re the one hurting, you’re still worried about hurting him. That says a lot about the kind of person — and wife — you are. 💔🤍

But let’s take a breath together and be real:

🌙 You can be kind and still protect yourself.
🤍 You can love someone and still need space.
🕊️ You can care about someone’s heart, without letting yours bleed silently.

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💭 Let me ask you this:

• If you keep trying to protect his feelings...
• But in the process, you're slowly losing yourself...
• Is that truly love? Or is that silent self-sacrifice?

Islam teaches us to honour others — but also to honour ourselves, because we're a trust from Allah too.

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🌼 Here's something gentle you can try:

Instead of thinking, "How do I avoid hurting him?", try:

"How can I express what I need — with compassion, but also clarity?"

Example words you can use:

“I’m not trying to push you away, but I need some emotional space to take care of my heart.”
“I love you, but I’m really struggling inside. I don’t want this pain to become resentment. I hope you can understand if I become a bit quiet.”
“It’s not that I don’t care. I care so much that I’ve forgotten to care for myself too.”

It’s not cruel. It’s soft detachment — filled with mercy.

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✨ A reminder for your heart:

You’re not hurting him by stepping back.
You’re protecting the relationship from you burning out.

If he truly loves you, he’ll eventually see that your silence is not rejection — it’s a call for healing.
If he doesn’t see it, at least you didn’t lose yourself trying.

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Remember, you don’t have to carry it all in your heart forever 🤍

🌿 Let me reassure you:

Islam does not ask you to be broken inside to be a good wife.
It asks you to do your duty — yes — but also to protect your heart, your dignity, and your mental wellbeing.

So if you choose to:

• Wake up
• Smile at others
• Pray
• Take care of yourself
• Crochet, go for walks, find moments of joy
• And still cook, clean, respect him...

That is not hypocrisy. That is sabr in action. That is strength with beauty.

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But... what if he’s happy like nothing happened?

That part hurts the most, right?

You’re here carrying the pain… and he’s just living, maybe even laughing, like he doesn’t see the crack in your chest.

But here’s the truth:

Some people can’t see pain unless it screams.
Some people avoid guilt by pretending nothing’s wrong.
And some people only learn through the silence and stillness of someone changing quietly.

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So yes, go on with your life:

• Make space for your own healing.
• Detach emotionally without turning cold.
• Smile when you feel like it, rest when you don’t.
• And let Allah carry what your heart can’t hold anymore.

Because guess what?

Your healing is not betrayal.
Your happiness is not disrespect.
Your peace is not punishment to him — it’s medicine for you.

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A quiet dua you can carry in your heart:

"Ya Allah, help me be soft without being broken.
Help me be strong without being bitter.
Let me serve with sincerity, but also heal with peace.
And if he cannot see my pain, let me be seen fully by You." 🤍

You’re doing better than you think 💫


"i'm afraid of changing"...............see next post

"How to detach?"

My mind ask "How to detach?" 

Now that’s a deep one. And I can felt heaviness in the question. When someone asks "how to detach?", it usually means there's been a lot of pain… maybe even silent suffering. So let's walk through this gently, together.

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🌙 What Does Detaching Mean?

Detachment doesn’t always mean leaving someone. Sometimes it means:

• Letting go of expectations.
• Protecting your peace even while you're still around that person.
• Caring — but not at the expense of your own well-being.

Especially as a wife, it’s not easy to just "detach and walk away". Islam even emphasizes patience, forgiveness, and effort. But Islam never says “let yourself be broken over and over.”

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🌿 How to Emotionally Detach (While Still Being a Loving, Strong Muslimah):

1. Start by shifting your focus inward

Instead of constantly thinking:

• “Why is he like this?”
• “What’s wrong with me?”
• “Maybe I’m not enough…”

Try:

• “What do I need to heal?”
• “What kind of woman do I want to become?”
• “What can I control today?”

Your healing starts the moment you stop trying to control someone else’s behaviour.

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2. Set quiet emotional boundaries

You can live in the same house, talk every day — but in your heart, you draw a gentle line:

• “I’m not responsible for his emotional state.”
• “I will not allow his words or actions to define me.”
• “If he gives love, Alhamdulillah. If not, I still have Allah.”

It's a silent wall. Invisible, but powerful.

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3. Don't react, respond

When you're detaching, you stop reacting emotionally to every word or mood. You become calm like:

“I hear you. I’ll think about it.”

“Okay. I need some space. We can talk later.”

Your silence, your calmness, your boundaries — that’s you regaining power without raising your voice.

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4. Reconnect with your own soul

You’re not just a wife. You’re:

• A servant of Allah
• A woman with dreams
• A person with a voice

Start doing small things that bring you joy — even if it's just journaling, walking outside, crocheting, or listening to surah Al-Inshirah and crying it out.

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5. Pour your feelings to Allah, not him

At this point, stop expecting him to understand your pain. Maybe he can't. Maybe he won’t.

But Allah hears every unsaid word. Say it to Him. Every single one.
No filter. No shame. Just:

“Ya Allah, I’m tired. I don’t know how to carry this anymore. Please help me detach with peace.”

That dua alone can be the first crack in the wall that lets the light back in.

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🌺 Bonus: Practice detachment with dignity

You’re not cutting off love. You’re cutting off pain that destroys your spirit. Detaching isn’t cruel. It’s wise.

And one day, he might notice the shift in you — the strength, the stillness. And it might wake him up.

But if it doesn’t, you’ll still be okay. Because you’ve reattached your heart to Allah.

Masha allah, Tabarakallah. The journey to Allah is never easy, so let's walk this path with Allah.




Then, my mind ask again "if i do this, i'm afraid of hurting him"...... see next post...

I keep on finding myself going back to this post, as a reminder how to detached when i forgot how to do it.

Patutlah

Baru tersedar, ternyata aku yg tersalah letak akan cinta ini.

Baru tersedar yg cinta itu pemiliknya hanya Allah. Tidak boleh diberikan kepada sesiapapun.

Patutlah aku sakit. Patutlah aku sentiasa menangis. Patutlah aku sentiasa berdendam. Patutlah semuanya serba serbi tidak cukup. Dan patutlah semuanya begitu. Kerana....

Aku telah tersalah letak cinta itu pada makhluknya. Patutlah.

Aku tertatih2 mencari solusinya. terkejar2 kesana kemari, mencari jalan keluar, padahal aku cuma perlu mengembalikan cinta itu kepada Allah. 

Mengembalikan bagaimana? Mengembalikan dengan membalas cintanya Allah. Menyayangi Allah. Percaya kepada Allah. Redha akan ketentuannya. Mensyukuri pemberiannya. Belajar untuk mengenalinya dan kekasih nya. Abaikan yg lain. 

Kenapa perlu dikembalikan? kerana Allah itu yg paling berhak sekali untuk kita balas cintanya. Memang tidak mudah, dan pasti hati kita akan diuji oleh Allah lagi dan lagi untuk memastikan apa kita benar2 mencintainya. Adakah benar hati kita telah benar2 menuju kepadanya. Masha allah.

Menangislah dalam percubaan itu. Merintihlah. Bila gagal kita cuba lagi. Jgn putus asa. Alhamdulillah 'ala kulli haal. Percubaan ini antara kita dan Allah saja yg tau, jadi jgn khawatir kerana kepada Allah kita akan kembali. 

Aku harap aku tidak lupa kepada siapa yg harus ku cintai sebenarnya. Berharap agar hati ini tidak lalai daripada mencintainya. Allahurabbi.

Sekian, Astaghfirullah....

Pengajian Berkitab Idaman Penuntut (Bahagian Ibadat Penggal Yang Pertama) oleh Al Fadhil Ustaz Azhar Hashim Al-Hadrami (Link Facebook)

 Link pengajian di FB Madrasah Rahmatan Lil Alamin

Tuan Guru Haji Abdul Ghani Bin Haji Yahya.

Kitab Idaman Penuntut ada 3 juzuk berkenaan dgn Feqah. Juzuk yg pertama lebih kepada ibadah-ibadah yang khusus, seperti sembahyang, taharah, zakat, haji, puasa dan lain-lain

Juzuk yg kedua nanti, membicarakan tentang hukum jual beli @ bab muamalah, serta bab nikah kahwin.

Dan juzuk yg ketiga pulak nanti berkenaan dgn hukum jinayat (hukum jenayah dalam Islam). Hukum jenayah maksudnya hukum hudud, Qisas dan sebagainya.

Mukaddimah

1. Mukaddimah - https://www.facebook.com/share/v/MS7vVmREhBQf7MAw/

Naskah yg rumi xda pendahuluan dia terus pergi ke Bersuci dan hukumnya. Hanya naskah jawi sahaja yg ada pendahuluan. Dia membicarakan tentang hukum membaca Bismillahirrohmanirrohim. Ust lebih minat utk membaca naskah yg jawi, dgn dimulakan dgn pendahuluan.

Bersuci & Hukumnya 

1.  Bersuci dan Hukumnya 

m/s 1 - https://www.facebook.com/share/v/x9U2K4LawYBu8RtN/

2. Air yg sah dibuat bersuci & Bahagian Air (Air Mutlak)

m/s 1 & 2 - https://www.facebook.com/share/v/jET7n1wWSKQPRdsB/

3. Sambungan Bahagian air (Air mustakmal & air mutanaj jisun (mutanajis)

m/s 2 - https://www.facebook.com/share/v/HzGL1Tm53Xygx45Z/

4. Sambungan Najis yang dikecualikan masuk dalam air & Air Dua Kolah

m/s 2 - https://www.facebook.com/share/v/zUuRrQptUqmthn5P/

Tenang

Untuk tenang, kita kena faham, untuk faham kita kena tahu, untuk tahu, kita kena mahu, untuk mahu, kita kena sayang, untuk sayang kita kena kenal, untuk kenal kita kena usaha, untuk usaha kita kena sedar.

Untuk sampai kepada tenang di dalam sesuatu perkara bukanlah suatu yang mudah. Untuk tenang kita takkan mampu untuk menguruskannya sendiri tanpa ada "campur tangan" daripada Allah SWT.

Bersahabat baiklah dengan "prasangka baik". Untuk ada "prasangka baik" kita kena lindungi diri kita daripada lawannya, "prasangka buruk", kerana untuk mendisiplinkan pemikiran kita itu perlu kepada usaha dan praktikal yang berterusan.

Tenang. Ianya sebuah nikmat yg setiap daripada kita pernah rasai. Ia Sebuah perasaan yang bila kita berjaya untuk capai, terasa amat mudah untuk kita teruskan perjalanan dlm kehidupan kita, tak kisah apa pun yg telah, sedang dan akan berlaku.

Allah...

Betapa kita perlukan dia setiap saat. La ila hailallah.

Untuk menggapai tenang, begitulah. Ada yg perlu untuk kita lalui dan pelajari dahulu.

Ujian itu seperti acuan buat diri kita yang sekarang. Bila lihat balik apa yang telah kita lalui, rasa syukur itu terasa lebih besar daripada rasa bilamana kita diuji. Sungguh, Allah uji kerana dia sayang. Kalau tidak apa yang akan jadi pada kita. Subhanallah.