When Connection Becomes a Burden
Do you ever feel like you’re shrinking? Like a little piece of you disappears when you feel disconnected from someone you want to be close to?
That feeling, that sense of becoming smaller, is a sign that the connection you crave simply isn’t available right now. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to turn off your own connection device.
This doesn’t mean cutting yourself off completely. It’s a deliberate choice to pause. It's your chance to rebuild, to rest, and to do what brings you peace. When your connection is constantly "on," you become restless, chasing a feeling that isn't there. It’s not only okay to disconnect for a while—it’s necessary.
It takes courage to choose to go "off." But when you do, and you're finally ready to reconnect, the bond will feel more genuine. You'll enjoy it more, free from the emotional exhaustion of forcing a connection that doesn't want to flow. You deserve connections that are effortless, not ones that make you chase or shrink.
A Stronger Love
Sometimes, the strongest way to love yourself—and others—is to choose to rest.
Remember to live for Allah, not for your husband. While your husband's satisfaction is a path to Allah's pleasure, don't let that become your entire purpose. Your husband is a gift from Allah, and to Allah, he will return. You don't own him, and you don't belong to him. You belong to Allah alone.
