You shrink when you feel disconnected from the person you long to be close to.
The only way to stop shrinking is to first acknowledge that the connection simply isn’t available right now. And when that happens, the best thing you can do is to turn off your own connection device.
Turning it off doesn’t mean cutting yourself off completely — it means giving yourself a chance to pause. To rebuild, to rest, to do what brings you peace.
Because when your connection is constantly “on,” you become restless. And it’s okay — even necessary — to disconnect for a while.
Going “off” takes a little bit of courage. But when you do, and you're finally ready to reconnect, it’ll feel more genuine. You’ll enjoy it more — without the emotional exhaustion of forcing it.
You deserve connections that flow freely, not ones that make you chase or shrink.
Sometimes, choosing to rest is the strongest way to love — both yourself and them.
Live for Allah, not for your husband. But indeed Redha from your husband means Redha from Allah SWT. So, don't go beyond that, because your husband is one of your way to Allah's Redha. Your husband is from Allah and to Allah we give him back, you don't own him, and you don't belong to him.